SEX and EQUALITY

Dear Blogger/Readers

Okay in my previous post called Women Talk, i spoke about our fantasies in the bedroom but then i thought of something else i had read in another book and thought why not talk about this too.

this blog is more of a rant and the dynamic presented in most books.
i have read countless books based on romance and teenage comedy and how young couples find love and what have you. however the main thing that seems to run through the books is that the girl in them always seems to be a virgin while the guy they are interested in are not.

i mean what is with that, i get the bad boy and that always has a reputation and that they sleep with anything that walks but to me i sometimes find it degrading to guys. i mean sure all young guys like to get around and that but its not like that for every guy. its like the books are just following the sterotype of a bad boy. i think some authors even have a checklist for their characters. i mean every bad boy must have

1. Tattoos, (okay fair enough i dont mind a guy with tattoos, but does it really make them a bad boy? i have tattoos, quite a lot actually does that make me a bad girl? i dont think so)

2. Must be adonis like good looking (newsflash not everyone is as gorgeous as Ian somerhalder, and not everyone goes for looks because majority of the time those who are good looking can be vain and have a shit personality. who wants that.)

3. Must be dark and mysterious and have a dangerous vibe ( i can tottally understand this one, i mean whos not attracted to danger once and a while but wy does every damn school have to have one like it, i know i didnt have a bad boy dangerous guy in school.)

4. Must have had sex with majority of girls in school ( i'm not one to judge at all but come on, is every girl so desperate to get a piece of this guy. i couldnt do that knowing id basically be sleeping with all the other girls in school too and not to mention what guy would want to be known for getting around like that knowing theres a possibility of pregnancy or some jealous girl who thought she was the one get pissed and say he raped her. i mean it could happen. it has happened)

so those are the main points for the bad boy in the books, they sleep around. great. good for them.
but what about the main girl of the book? why does she have to be a virgin why does she always have to fall for the popular boy? cant she of had sex with her share of guys or something.

not all girls are innocent, plenty of girls have sex with people while they are in high school so why hasnt this girl, fair enough some people want to wait until marriage and they commit to it but why the main girl, because in every book the girl gives it up to the bad boy anyway.
i think i get so annoyed is because majority of the time the author makes the girl out to be self concious of herself and when she finally does get with the guy she has to think about all the people he's been with and she feels hurt when they come back in to his life and what have you. not to mention the girl always questions why he's with her because he is so god damn good looking. for once why cant the girl have a little action and give the guy something to think about for a change, i mean they dont have to think about all the guys that she has been with because she hasnt so he hasnt got a clue what she is feeling.

Another thing that pisses me off. every book has a resident slut. fair enough a girl who goes out and sleeps with every guy she sees and some girls boyfriends. i can see how she got the name. however if a girl is just out having a good time with people why is it so wrong. we all fight for equality when it comes to the sexes however soon as a girls sleeps around because she wants to she is labelled a hoe or whore or slut. i mean seriously. some guys do why worse and all they get called is a player and get congratulated by their friends.

how is that fair, everyone wants to stop all the sterotypical bullshit and all the bullying that goes on in schools and colleges but then everyone reads the same books and just keeps reminding everyone about sterotypes. if someone wrote a book, and it had a storyline where the girl is not a virgin and the guy sleeps around then fair enough but for once i want to see the guy feel something and make them see what the girl is feeling.


i want to see people write about how its okay for girls to be sexual beings that its okay to explore and go out and have fun. we have the same right as men do so why should we be shamed for our actions, why should we be called names looked down upon for an act that everyone participates in.

there are more things wrong in the world than a girl going out and having sex!

okay im done thats the end of my rant, if any of you agree please share and comment.

laters Bloggers

Ashleigh xo