One Night Stands...

Dear Bloggers/Reader,

Have you noticed a little theme here?
I'm not gonna lie talking about Sex and Equality has really gotten to me. There are so many things that go on within our lives that evolved around these two things and well i want to explore that.

One thing that comes up quite a bit is One Night Stands.

I'm not going to lie i have had 2 nights myself. i'm not ashamed of it. its the truth. What i dont seem to understand is why people judge others. Mostly females.

A man gets to go out and have many one night stands and not feel guilty about it. they can even go as far as sleeping with two girls in one night, they go out and enjoy themselves without any problems. However when a girl goes out and ends up having a one night stand, it becomes an issue. Its like everything has gone wrong with the world. When i hear what people have to say, sometimes i just want to punch them in the face. i mean seriously what is with people.

There is nothing wrong with a girl going out and enjoying herself. so what if she gets picked up in a bar or club and goes back with the guy. if shes guilty isnt the guy shes with too. does it really matter how many guys a girl sleeps with? does it affect you in any way who she sleeps with?

Do you wanna know what i think? i think the reason why people judge is because they are JEALOUS. they are jealous because girls and guys are going out and doing what they havent got the balls to do. they are upset because they are going out and having fun. those people, they have the confidence to go home with a stranger and enjoy the pleasure of sex.

its okay if you dont like the idea of one nights stands it doesnt mean other people have to agree with you. everyone is entitled to their own opinion, its their life so it doesnt affect you.

i'm not gonna say its just women that get judged, men do too. its just less common. mostly girls judge the guys, they think that if a guy is going out and having sex, they are called a player. thats not always the case. maybe the guy just wants to have fun and enjoy the pleasures of a females company, theres nothing wrong with it. in some cases men even fall for the girl they end up sleeping with, not all the time but it does happen. people form an attachment to the people they sleep with.

Many people think that having sex should be something special and that it should only happen when you have feelings for another person, i beg to differ. if your attracted to the person doesnt that mean you have feelings towards them in some way, it doesnt mean you love them or anything it just means you appreciate what they have to offer. theres nothing wrong with that.

Yes having sex is a special thing, it makes you feel good and what not but it doenst mean that by having sex you have to fall madly in love with the person. One night stands is a way for people to release themselves, no matter what comes of it.

heres a few pros and cons...

Perks of a one night stand:
1. you can experiment with the person. try what you want. theres no worry on seeing them again if it goes wrong, theres no need to feel embarrassed because they dont know you. they dont know what you like so you can tell them.

2. you can be who you want to be, you can pretend to be someone else.

3. you get to enjoy great sex with no strings.

4. ego boost, the fact that someone wants to get between the sheets with you can make you feel powerful. its an intoxicating feeling

Cons of a one night stand:
1. STD or STI, this is pretty common, you dont know who you are sleeping with, you dont know what diseases they have. so make sure you wrap it or you can find yourself in a situation you didnt want to be in.

2. grow attached. this can happen, you ust spent the night having amazing sex and instantly find your self attached, it happens to both guys and girls. this can complicate things as the other person might not reciprocate and that just brings a whole load of drama.

3. Pregnancy, there is always a chance condoms are only 99% effective

4. there is always a chance you could see the person again. Talk about Awkward........

anyway. i think im done for now on this issue. if you have any comments please dont hesitate to leave them..

laters readers

ashleigh xo