Dear Readers/ Bloggers,
Sorry i have not posted in a while. Things in my life have gotten hectic, im back at school. Preparing for my art exams. its crazy how busy my life has got.
i miss the care free attitude i had when i was writing. i WILL continue to write blogs.
hopefully by the end of next week i will have 2 new blogs prepared and ready for you too read.
Dont loose faith in me.
thank you
Ashleii xo
Sunday, 13 December 2015
Wednesday, 14 October 2015
Theres a WAR who's side are you on
Dear Bloggers/Readers,
Okay this is a random Blog but i just had to write it.
Okay so i just got on the phone with my crazy Best Friend Hannah, while im Sitting with my other best friend Emma. Hannah as you know is black and Emma is white. So basically, i answered the phone and Hannah said she wanted to ask me something. This is how are conversation went.
"Ashleii can i ask you a question, but you might take offence to this"- Hannah
Insert Emma's Laugh
"okay what do you want to ask me?" - me
pause
"If there's a war Between Black people and White people who's side are you on"
Laughter from all of us.
If you didnt know i am mixed race, so that is why she asked.
I didnt know how to respond i just could not stop myself from laughing. I mean how do you respond to something like that. I knew what my response would be but still. We could not stop laughing. Emma's sitting next to be about to have a fit and holding her stomach and hannah is on the phone laughing her arse off. Me, im still crying from laughter.
I just said "its a war between black people and white people, we mixed race people are exactly that our own race, so ill leave you guys too it" i thought my answer was brilliant however emma and hannah still couldn't stop laughing.
I wasnt going to choose, i have family who are both black and white. I know this is a random topic and im sorry if people take offence to this, this is not my intention. i wanted to share a funny moment with my friends and i think its a thing to talk about. so if you have any questions or if you have your own opinion, PLease share.
ANyway Random Blog over.
LAters
from Me (ashleii) , Emma and Hannah xo
Okay this is a random Blog but i just had to write it.
Okay so i just got on the phone with my crazy Best Friend Hannah, while im Sitting with my other best friend Emma. Hannah as you know is black and Emma is white. So basically, i answered the phone and Hannah said she wanted to ask me something. This is how are conversation went.
"Ashleii can i ask you a question, but you might take offence to this"- Hannah
Insert Emma's Laugh
"okay what do you want to ask me?" - me
pause
"If there's a war Between Black people and White people who's side are you on"
Laughter from all of us.
If you didnt know i am mixed race, so that is why she asked.
I didnt know how to respond i just could not stop myself from laughing. I mean how do you respond to something like that. I knew what my response would be but still. We could not stop laughing. Emma's sitting next to be about to have a fit and holding her stomach and hannah is on the phone laughing her arse off. Me, im still crying from laughter.
I just said "its a war between black people and white people, we mixed race people are exactly that our own race, so ill leave you guys too it" i thought my answer was brilliant however emma and hannah still couldn't stop laughing.
I wasnt going to choose, i have family who are both black and white. I know this is a random topic and im sorry if people take offence to this, this is not my intention. i wanted to share a funny moment with my friends and i think its a thing to talk about. so if you have any questions or if you have your own opinion, PLease share.
ANyway Random Blog over.
LAters
from Me (ashleii) , Emma and Hannah xo
Tuesday, 13 October 2015
Truth
Dear Bloggers/Readers,
This is going to be a short one,
Basically i wanted to say thank you to those who read Dark Days and didn't judge me. There is so much stuff that has gone in my life that has fucked me up. In many of my posts i have tried not to reveal too much as to what has happened to me.
To me sharing everything that has gone on in my life is scary, and it frightens me. Many people who read this go to my school and i don't know if i could handle them knowing. I think i need to take my own advice and Be Bold but its a lot harder than it looks.
I think if i want to be able to share my Story it will have to start of with the little things. I dont think i could write my biggest issue, its hard for me to re-live it and it brings memorys back that i would rather forget. But i will try because i want to be strong and i dont want to have those Dark Days any more.
I will also start to write a bit more about the books i read along with having little rants here and there on certain topics. I also want to start Reviewing Blogs so that i can see what other people do and give my opinion. i want to branch out as well as keep somethings personal.
I apologise for the small Blog but there will be a good read tomorrow ( i hope :D)
i hope you all have a good day and just remember to smile.
Ashleigh xo
This is going to be a short one,
Basically i wanted to say thank you to those who read Dark Days and didn't judge me. There is so much stuff that has gone in my life that has fucked me up. In many of my posts i have tried not to reveal too much as to what has happened to me.
To me sharing everything that has gone on in my life is scary, and it frightens me. Many people who read this go to my school and i don't know if i could handle them knowing. I think i need to take my own advice and Be Bold but its a lot harder than it looks.
I think if i want to be able to share my Story it will have to start of with the little things. I dont think i could write my biggest issue, its hard for me to re-live it and it brings memorys back that i would rather forget. But i will try because i want to be strong and i dont want to have those Dark Days any more.
I will also start to write a bit more about the books i read along with having little rants here and there on certain topics. I also want to start Reviewing Blogs so that i can see what other people do and give my opinion. i want to branch out as well as keep somethings personal.
I apologise for the small Blog but there will be a good read tomorrow ( i hope :D)
i hope you all have a good day and just remember to smile.
Ashleigh xo
Monday, 12 October 2015
Dark Days
Dear Bloggers/Readers,
Where do i begin. Everyone has those days where they just want to stay in bed and never get up. It happens all the time, you start to feel down and you just dont want to move. You are content to stay in the position you are in because you are in a place where you dont want to leave.
Throughout my life i have had many ups and downs. Mainly downs, they brought me to a place where i felt like i shouldnt be here any more. like i didnt deserve to be on this earth. I was very troubled when i was in high school, i was very good at hiding everything. Only a few people actually knew the real me and what was going on.
I was angry at the world for everything that had happened to me. Very bad things happened when i was younger and i felt like i deserved it, like i had brought it on myself. i could have easily blamed my parents for what happened. some part of me felt that it was their fault, if they hadnt abandoned me and left me, maybe i wouldnt be here today writing this and would have never had to experience hell. Many people would say that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. i dont believe that, im not strong, in fact i see myself as weak. some days its such an effort to get up i dont even want to.
Do you want to know what the sad part is, i wish that i would one day fall asleep and never have to worry about waking up ever again, could you imagine that, never having to worry again, never have to wonder what the next bad thing is. i would find peace. When i sleep, all my troubles disappear, i get to create my own memories and people. i can create a funny scene in my head and laugh as if it actually happened. i'm not scared of whats around me, im free.
Some days i would sit on a bus and head to school and think about what it would be like if there was an accident and i was the only one who was injured. i always ask who would miss me. I have a dad who is over in the Isle of Wight with my baby sister and step-mum. He only calls when he needs something. He never calls me to say hello or ask how my school is. Do you wanna know what the worst part is, he couldn't care less about me and my other sister. He only wants to please my step-mum. He has forgotten that we were here first and that we love him to. I hate him but i love him. How sad is that, he has hurt me so many times over the years and yet i still love him, he abandoned me, let me down so many times i cant even count and just lives his life like we dont even exist. He still has the power to make me feel like a little girl who needs her dad. If i died, he would probably feel guilty that he didnt try, but then he will forget and live on like he never even had me. My mum would probably miss me, we have been working towards a good relationship and we have become apart of each others lives again. i know in my hearts that she will always miss me when i;m gone and i suppose thats comforting to know that she will miss me.
How sad it that though to think about what life would be like when your gone, i have tried so many times myself to leave this place and each time i have failed. i have just learnt to accept that it will happen when it happens. I have tried to be strong and be someone but there are always moments like this that i think i failed.
I dont want to get out of bed, I dont want to wake up. I get told to be strong,
Well im trying but sometimes the darkness wins
ashleigh
Where do i begin. Everyone has those days where they just want to stay in bed and never get up. It happens all the time, you start to feel down and you just dont want to move. You are content to stay in the position you are in because you are in a place where you dont want to leave.
Throughout my life i have had many ups and downs. Mainly downs, they brought me to a place where i felt like i shouldnt be here any more. like i didnt deserve to be on this earth. I was very troubled when i was in high school, i was very good at hiding everything. Only a few people actually knew the real me and what was going on.
I was angry at the world for everything that had happened to me. Very bad things happened when i was younger and i felt like i deserved it, like i had brought it on myself. i could have easily blamed my parents for what happened. some part of me felt that it was their fault, if they hadnt abandoned me and left me, maybe i wouldnt be here today writing this and would have never had to experience hell. Many people would say that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. i dont believe that, im not strong, in fact i see myself as weak. some days its such an effort to get up i dont even want to.
Do you want to know what the sad part is, i wish that i would one day fall asleep and never have to worry about waking up ever again, could you imagine that, never having to worry again, never have to wonder what the next bad thing is. i would find peace. When i sleep, all my troubles disappear, i get to create my own memories and people. i can create a funny scene in my head and laugh as if it actually happened. i'm not scared of whats around me, im free.
Some days i would sit on a bus and head to school and think about what it would be like if there was an accident and i was the only one who was injured. i always ask who would miss me. I have a dad who is over in the Isle of Wight with my baby sister and step-mum. He only calls when he needs something. He never calls me to say hello or ask how my school is. Do you wanna know what the worst part is, he couldn't care less about me and my other sister. He only wants to please my step-mum. He has forgotten that we were here first and that we love him to. I hate him but i love him. How sad is that, he has hurt me so many times over the years and yet i still love him, he abandoned me, let me down so many times i cant even count and just lives his life like we dont even exist. He still has the power to make me feel like a little girl who needs her dad. If i died, he would probably feel guilty that he didnt try, but then he will forget and live on like he never even had me. My mum would probably miss me, we have been working towards a good relationship and we have become apart of each others lives again. i know in my hearts that she will always miss me when i;m gone and i suppose thats comforting to know that she will miss me.
How sad it that though to think about what life would be like when your gone, i have tried so many times myself to leave this place and each time i have failed. i have just learnt to accept that it will happen when it happens. I have tried to be strong and be someone but there are always moments like this that i think i failed.
I dont want to get out of bed, I dont want to wake up. I get told to be strong,
Well im trying but sometimes the darkness wins
ashleigh
HAVe you Got TWo Faces ?
Dear Bloggers/Readers
Okay this is going to be another rant on a different topic as this seems to come up all the time and i get asked so many questions about it. Us girls are a rare breed nowadays we are bitchy and well many people say we have two faces. we have one that is kind and listens to what you have to say and the other is always talking shit behind your back.
I'm not gonna lie i used to be like this when i was younger. i had loads of girlfriends who were just like me. Eager to fit in with everyone and bullshit about people we dont like and shit. We did things to make us stand out, talked about parties and what not trying to be cool and be noticed. everyones goals was to be popular, be in with the it crowd. (its funny because when i look back there wasnt really and it crowd and by the end of high school everyone knew of everybody anyway. i ended up knowing everyone and everyone knew me. so looking back i realise there wasnt really much of a point to all this crap. anyway..)But the thing was, i didnt like being that person that put people down behind their backs. Do you know how tiring it is to pretend to be something your not and to bitch about people you actually like is just wrong on so many levels. i'm guilty of that, i did what all the other girls did. i followed the crown like a little sheep. After a while i realised that i didnt want to do this any more. i couldnt care less if these girls didnt like me, and wanted to talk behind my back. i didnt give a flying fuck i was just tired of pretending.
So i separated from them, started to get close to my old friends again who stuck by me, i made new ones that made me laugh and accepted me for me. i was happy. i was no longer following the crowd.
i didnt need to bitch behind peoples backs, i realised that if i had a problem with someone i had to tell them to their face not to their backs.
what i soon realised is that girls dont take too kindly to people being brutally honest to their face. and thats just what i did. i didnt hold back if i had a problem, i laid it out all on the table so they knew what my problem was. Do you know how good it felt to actually confront the person than to chat shit about them behind their back. it was exhilarating.
so over the years thats what i did, it tried not to get involved with any of the gossip, sometimes i failed sometimes i succeeded. i stopped trying to fit in with the other groups. i was happy with my group of friends. they were the best always there for me when i needed them nd i was there for them. we ll had a true friendship and created memories that can never be forgotten.
i was asked quite a lot "why do i have more guy friends than girlfriends?" the simple answer is majority of the girls i knew were two faced and i couldn't deal with all that drama. the few girl friends i had were just like me, they couldnt care less about all the gossip and girl drama. it was why we got along so well. As for the guys well, thats easy they are guys. if they have a problem they confront each other, get it all out of their system and then BOOM everythings back to normal as it nothing just happened. i admire that about guys, they just forgive and forget. not all guys are like that but my guys were. Us girls, we tend to let what evers pissing us off fester until it grows and becomes something bigger than it is, if we are left alone to think about things we take things apart and put it together how we want to see it, its why we are difficult to deal with. many girls plan for the others downfall, make them hated and what have you and i find it petty. i mean what is with that. i can happily say i was never this bad, i wouldnt be able to do that to another person regardless.
anyway My guys were pretty damn amazing, they were funny and each had their own personality. if anyone reading this knows me, you know which guys im on about. they were always there making me smile. i have so many fond memories with them that ust writing this is making me smile. i surrounded myself with these boys because they didnt put up with peoples bullshit, if i had a problem with them we sorted it out and it was like we never had a problem in the first place. they weren't sheep following the crowd, they followed their footsteps and stood out of the crowd. Two of my guys i grew up with so our friendship has been strong for 12 years. i will never forget our friendship. even thought now we have all gone our separate ways me and my boys are still close and i am thankful for that.
So i think im done for now. i would like to hear what you think about this so dont hesitate to leave a comment and please share.
laters bloggers
ashleigh xo
Okay this is going to be another rant on a different topic as this seems to come up all the time and i get asked so many questions about it. Us girls are a rare breed nowadays we are bitchy and well many people say we have two faces. we have one that is kind and listens to what you have to say and the other is always talking shit behind your back.
I'm not gonna lie i used to be like this when i was younger. i had loads of girlfriends who were just like me. Eager to fit in with everyone and bullshit about people we dont like and shit. We did things to make us stand out, talked about parties and what not trying to be cool and be noticed. everyones goals was to be popular, be in with the it crowd. (its funny because when i look back there wasnt really and it crowd and by the end of high school everyone knew of everybody anyway. i ended up knowing everyone and everyone knew me. so looking back i realise there wasnt really much of a point to all this crap. anyway..)But the thing was, i didnt like being that person that put people down behind their backs. Do you know how tiring it is to pretend to be something your not and to bitch about people you actually like is just wrong on so many levels. i'm guilty of that, i did what all the other girls did. i followed the crown like a little sheep. After a while i realised that i didnt want to do this any more. i couldnt care less if these girls didnt like me, and wanted to talk behind my back. i didnt give a flying fuck i was just tired of pretending.
So i separated from them, started to get close to my old friends again who stuck by me, i made new ones that made me laugh and accepted me for me. i was happy. i was no longer following the crowd.
i didnt need to bitch behind peoples backs, i realised that if i had a problem with someone i had to tell them to their face not to their backs.
what i soon realised is that girls dont take too kindly to people being brutally honest to their face. and thats just what i did. i didnt hold back if i had a problem, i laid it out all on the table so they knew what my problem was. Do you know how good it felt to actually confront the person than to chat shit about them behind their back. it was exhilarating.
so over the years thats what i did, it tried not to get involved with any of the gossip, sometimes i failed sometimes i succeeded. i stopped trying to fit in with the other groups. i was happy with my group of friends. they were the best always there for me when i needed them nd i was there for them. we ll had a true friendship and created memories that can never be forgotten.
i was asked quite a lot "why do i have more guy friends than girlfriends?" the simple answer is majority of the girls i knew were two faced and i couldn't deal with all that drama. the few girl friends i had were just like me, they couldnt care less about all the gossip and girl drama. it was why we got along so well. As for the guys well, thats easy they are guys. if they have a problem they confront each other, get it all out of their system and then BOOM everythings back to normal as it nothing just happened. i admire that about guys, they just forgive and forget. not all guys are like that but my guys were. Us girls, we tend to let what evers pissing us off fester until it grows and becomes something bigger than it is, if we are left alone to think about things we take things apart and put it together how we want to see it, its why we are difficult to deal with. many girls plan for the others downfall, make them hated and what have you and i find it petty. i mean what is with that. i can happily say i was never this bad, i wouldnt be able to do that to another person regardless.
anyway My guys were pretty damn amazing, they were funny and each had their own personality. if anyone reading this knows me, you know which guys im on about. they were always there making me smile. i have so many fond memories with them that ust writing this is making me smile. i surrounded myself with these boys because they didnt put up with peoples bullshit, if i had a problem with them we sorted it out and it was like we never had a problem in the first place. they weren't sheep following the crowd, they followed their footsteps and stood out of the crowd. Two of my guys i grew up with so our friendship has been strong for 12 years. i will never forget our friendship. even thought now we have all gone our separate ways me and my boys are still close and i am thankful for that.
So i think im done for now. i would like to hear what you think about this so dont hesitate to leave a comment and please share.
laters bloggers
ashleigh xo
Sunday, 11 October 2015
People DESERVE more
Dear Bloggers/Readers
This blog is actually a rant about things i think people deserve. i have had this conversation with many of my friends and they agree. i want to write about it and see what you readers think. i would appreciate it if your shared and commented on this as i want to know how others feel.
where do i start...
okay first of all i will never understand why footballers and politicians earn more money than most people in certain job areas. it baffles me. i mean take footballers for example. yes they are good at what they do. but all they do is kick a ball down the field and provide entertainment for people all over the world. but do they deserve the money they get. i dont think so, there are many more people in different lines of work that deserve more money than they get. Politicians, why the fuck to they get paid so much money when all they do is create scandles for themselves, make false promises and never follow through with what they say. we all know that they lie just to make their way up the food chain but do they really deserve the money they make. im not discrediting some politicians, some actually try hard but they still dont deserve to be paid what they do.
People who actually deserve the money seem to be taken for granted. i mean what about Fire Fighters, Doctors, Nurses, Soldiers, Carers etc. i could go on. they deserve more money. they are out there everyday helping people and saving lives. People choose to do these jobs to help others but what happens when people decide that helping people is no longer enough. how can they help people when they cant help themselves. how can they support themselves. People choose to do these jobs because they want to make a difference. the should be awarded for it. they should be paid for the work they try so hard to do. THEY DESERVE IT.
Fire Fighters, they go and put out fires that claim so many lives, they walk into burning buildings to save people, and bring them back to loved ones. they help make sure no one else will get hurt. the put out those fires that are started. Did you know that some Fire Fighters die young due to the fact they have inhaled too much smoke over the years of service. they risk their lives each time there is a fire. they put others lives before theres. THEY DESERVE A RAISE. instead they get pain on average £28,766 a year. That is pitiful.
Doctors, Nurses, they work hard on treating people making sure everyone gets better. they help in any way they can to improve peoples health. Doctors they save lives, they do heart surgeries to keep people alive. they take a chance on people, they do what they can and sometimes their best is not good enough, they have to live with the fact that they failed someone, because they couldnt save them. yet they still do their job because the lives they have saved out ways the lives they have lost. they dedicate their lives to making people better. THEY DESERVE BETTER. it varies on salary for different types of doctors but the highest salary for doctors overall is £76,461. i still think they deserve more.
Soldiers, they go out and fight for us, they fight for people they dont know. they are fighting a battle that is not theirs to fight yet they do it because they know we need defending. they risk their lives every fucking day and yet they are sometimes forgotten. they see things that no one wishes to see. the experience the worst things in life and dont complain. they loose the people they have become close to. they have to bury their friends when accidents happen. soldiers come back, and, they suffer from PTSD and other things, some have to have amputations due to accidents that happen. they fight through it because they are survivors. who helps them when they get back. yes there are charities that help with rehabilitation but thats short-term. who is there in the long run. i have heard so many sotries about soldiers who struggle to find work and find a place to live. its disgusting, these people have thought for us and they dont get nothing. The average salary for a soldier is £31,000 and that is after some years of service to reach the rank of Sargent. new recruits earn at least half of this. like i said SOLDIERS DESERVE MORE.
Footballers, all they do is run a football down they field and provide entertainment for the world. thats the only thing the bring to the world. and what do they get paid? the average salary for a football player has gone up and they are now being paid about £2.3 million a year. What the actual fuck.
there is seriously something wrong here.
IM DONE FOR NOW
please comment and share. want to know what people think on this subject.
Ashleigh xo
This blog is actually a rant about things i think people deserve. i have had this conversation with many of my friends and they agree. i want to write about it and see what you readers think. i would appreciate it if your shared and commented on this as i want to know how others feel.
where do i start...
okay first of all i will never understand why footballers and politicians earn more money than most people in certain job areas. it baffles me. i mean take footballers for example. yes they are good at what they do. but all they do is kick a ball down the field and provide entertainment for people all over the world. but do they deserve the money they get. i dont think so, there are many more people in different lines of work that deserve more money than they get. Politicians, why the fuck to they get paid so much money when all they do is create scandles for themselves, make false promises and never follow through with what they say. we all know that they lie just to make their way up the food chain but do they really deserve the money they make. im not discrediting some politicians, some actually try hard but they still dont deserve to be paid what they do.
People who actually deserve the money seem to be taken for granted. i mean what about Fire Fighters, Doctors, Nurses, Soldiers, Carers etc. i could go on. they deserve more money. they are out there everyday helping people and saving lives. People choose to do these jobs to help others but what happens when people decide that helping people is no longer enough. how can they help people when they cant help themselves. how can they support themselves. People choose to do these jobs because they want to make a difference. the should be awarded for it. they should be paid for the work they try so hard to do. THEY DESERVE IT.
Fire Fighters, they go and put out fires that claim so many lives, they walk into burning buildings to save people, and bring them back to loved ones. they help make sure no one else will get hurt. the put out those fires that are started. Did you know that some Fire Fighters die young due to the fact they have inhaled too much smoke over the years of service. they risk their lives each time there is a fire. they put others lives before theres. THEY DESERVE A RAISE. instead they get pain on average £28,766 a year. That is pitiful.
Doctors, Nurses, they work hard on treating people making sure everyone gets better. they help in any way they can to improve peoples health. Doctors they save lives, they do heart surgeries to keep people alive. they take a chance on people, they do what they can and sometimes their best is not good enough, they have to live with the fact that they failed someone, because they couldnt save them. yet they still do their job because the lives they have saved out ways the lives they have lost. they dedicate their lives to making people better. THEY DESERVE BETTER. it varies on salary for different types of doctors but the highest salary for doctors overall is £76,461. i still think they deserve more.
Soldiers, they go out and fight for us, they fight for people they dont know. they are fighting a battle that is not theirs to fight yet they do it because they know we need defending. they risk their lives every fucking day and yet they are sometimes forgotten. they see things that no one wishes to see. the experience the worst things in life and dont complain. they loose the people they have become close to. they have to bury their friends when accidents happen. soldiers come back, and, they suffer from PTSD and other things, some have to have amputations due to accidents that happen. they fight through it because they are survivors. who helps them when they get back. yes there are charities that help with rehabilitation but thats short-term. who is there in the long run. i have heard so many sotries about soldiers who struggle to find work and find a place to live. its disgusting, these people have thought for us and they dont get nothing. The average salary for a soldier is £31,000 and that is after some years of service to reach the rank of Sargent. new recruits earn at least half of this. like i said SOLDIERS DESERVE MORE.
Footballers, all they do is run a football down they field and provide entertainment for the world. thats the only thing the bring to the world. and what do they get paid? the average salary for a football player has gone up and they are now being paid about £2.3 million a year. What the actual fuck.
there is seriously something wrong here.
IM DONE FOR NOW
please comment and share. want to know what people think on this subject.
Ashleigh xo
Saturday, 10 October 2015
One Night Stands...
Dear Bloggers/Reader,
Have you noticed a little theme here?
I'm not gonna lie talking about Sex and Equality has really gotten to me. There are so many things that go on within our lives that evolved around these two things and well i want to explore that.
One thing that comes up quite a bit is One Night Stands.
I'm not going to lie i have had 2 nights myself. i'm not ashamed of it. its the truth. What i dont seem to understand is why people judge others. Mostly females.
A man gets to go out and have many one night stands and not feel guilty about it. they can even go as far as sleeping with two girls in one night, they go out and enjoy themselves without any problems. However when a girl goes out and ends up having a one night stand, it becomes an issue. Its like everything has gone wrong with the world. When i hear what people have to say, sometimes i just want to punch them in the face. i mean seriously what is with people.
There is nothing wrong with a girl going out and enjoying herself. so what if she gets picked up in a bar or club and goes back with the guy. if shes guilty isnt the guy shes with too. does it really matter how many guys a girl sleeps with? does it affect you in any way who she sleeps with?
Do you wanna know what i think? i think the reason why people judge is because they are JEALOUS. they are jealous because girls and guys are going out and doing what they havent got the balls to do. they are upset because they are going out and having fun. those people, they have the confidence to go home with a stranger and enjoy the pleasure of sex.
its okay if you dont like the idea of one nights stands it doesnt mean other people have to agree with you. everyone is entitled to their own opinion, its their life so it doesnt affect you.
i'm not gonna say its just women that get judged, men do too. its just less common. mostly girls judge the guys, they think that if a guy is going out and having sex, they are called a player. thats not always the case. maybe the guy just wants to have fun and enjoy the pleasures of a females company, theres nothing wrong with it. in some cases men even fall for the girl they end up sleeping with, not all the time but it does happen. people form an attachment to the people they sleep with.
Many people think that having sex should be something special and that it should only happen when you have feelings for another person, i beg to differ. if your attracted to the person doesnt that mean you have feelings towards them in some way, it doesnt mean you love them or anything it just means you appreciate what they have to offer. theres nothing wrong with that.
Yes having sex is a special thing, it makes you feel good and what not but it doenst mean that by having sex you have to fall madly in love with the person. One night stands is a way for people to release themselves, no matter what comes of it.
heres a few pros and cons...
Perks of a one night stand:
1. you can experiment with the person. try what you want. theres no worry on seeing them again if it goes wrong, theres no need to feel embarrassed because they dont know you. they dont know what you like so you can tell them.
2. you can be who you want to be, you can pretend to be someone else.
3. you get to enjoy great sex with no strings.
4. ego boost, the fact that someone wants to get between the sheets with you can make you feel powerful. its an intoxicating feeling
Cons of a one night stand:
1. STD or STI, this is pretty common, you dont know who you are sleeping with, you dont know what diseases they have. so make sure you wrap it or you can find yourself in a situation you didnt want to be in.
2. grow attached. this can happen, you ust spent the night having amazing sex and instantly find your self attached, it happens to both guys and girls. this can complicate things as the other person might not reciprocate and that just brings a whole load of drama.
3. Pregnancy, there is always a chance condoms are only 99% effective
4. there is always a chance you could see the person again. Talk about Awkward........
anyway. i think im done for now on this issue. if you have any comments please dont hesitate to leave them..
laters readers
ashleigh xo
Have you noticed a little theme here?
I'm not gonna lie talking about Sex and Equality has really gotten to me. There are so many things that go on within our lives that evolved around these two things and well i want to explore that.
One thing that comes up quite a bit is One Night Stands.
I'm not going to lie i have had 2 nights myself. i'm not ashamed of it. its the truth. What i dont seem to understand is why people judge others. Mostly females.
A man gets to go out and have many one night stands and not feel guilty about it. they can even go as far as sleeping with two girls in one night, they go out and enjoy themselves without any problems. However when a girl goes out and ends up having a one night stand, it becomes an issue. Its like everything has gone wrong with the world. When i hear what people have to say, sometimes i just want to punch them in the face. i mean seriously what is with people.
There is nothing wrong with a girl going out and enjoying herself. so what if she gets picked up in a bar or club and goes back with the guy. if shes guilty isnt the guy shes with too. does it really matter how many guys a girl sleeps with? does it affect you in any way who she sleeps with?
Do you wanna know what i think? i think the reason why people judge is because they are JEALOUS. they are jealous because girls and guys are going out and doing what they havent got the balls to do. they are upset because they are going out and having fun. those people, they have the confidence to go home with a stranger and enjoy the pleasure of sex.
its okay if you dont like the idea of one nights stands it doesnt mean other people have to agree with you. everyone is entitled to their own opinion, its their life so it doesnt affect you.
i'm not gonna say its just women that get judged, men do too. its just less common. mostly girls judge the guys, they think that if a guy is going out and having sex, they are called a player. thats not always the case. maybe the guy just wants to have fun and enjoy the pleasures of a females company, theres nothing wrong with it. in some cases men even fall for the girl they end up sleeping with, not all the time but it does happen. people form an attachment to the people they sleep with.
Many people think that having sex should be something special and that it should only happen when you have feelings for another person, i beg to differ. if your attracted to the person doesnt that mean you have feelings towards them in some way, it doesnt mean you love them or anything it just means you appreciate what they have to offer. theres nothing wrong with that.
Yes having sex is a special thing, it makes you feel good and what not but it doenst mean that by having sex you have to fall madly in love with the person. One night stands is a way for people to release themselves, no matter what comes of it.
heres a few pros and cons...
Perks of a one night stand:
1. you can experiment with the person. try what you want. theres no worry on seeing them again if it goes wrong, theres no need to feel embarrassed because they dont know you. they dont know what you like so you can tell them.
2. you can be who you want to be, you can pretend to be someone else.
3. you get to enjoy great sex with no strings.
4. ego boost, the fact that someone wants to get between the sheets with you can make you feel powerful. its an intoxicating feeling
Cons of a one night stand:
1. STD or STI, this is pretty common, you dont know who you are sleeping with, you dont know what diseases they have. so make sure you wrap it or you can find yourself in a situation you didnt want to be in.
2. grow attached. this can happen, you ust spent the night having amazing sex and instantly find your self attached, it happens to both guys and girls. this can complicate things as the other person might not reciprocate and that just brings a whole load of drama.
3. Pregnancy, there is always a chance condoms are only 99% effective
4. there is always a chance you could see the person again. Talk about Awkward........
anyway. i think im done for now on this issue. if you have any comments please dont hesitate to leave them..
laters readers
ashleigh xo
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